Friday, October 2, 2009

Love Him: Series Conclusion

All our rambling about honoring our future husbands boils down to one simple thing: love him. It’s not about a list of dos and don’ts. It’s not about following a set of rules either. It’s about the concept of striving to start a love story before we even know who we’ll marry. It’s that idea of instead of putting our efforts into short term relationships that are self focused and over dramatic, to instead invest in a future romance between not only you and your future spouse but also your heavenly Bridegroom.

Is it easy? No. But will it be somehow magically be easier to honor our husbands once we are married? No. It will always be hard and we will always be learning, but the rewards are worth it.

So what if marriage isn’t in God’s plan for you? What if He has singleness in store for you? If that is the blessing we receive from God, then these concepts will not go to waste even then. Is a person at loss for guarding purity, maintaining boundaries in male-female relationships, being careful about what you allow to enter your mind, and building character just because they are destined to be single? Absolutely not! Part of our goal in doing these things are not just to honor our future husbands, but also to obey and glorify God; and that isn’t something that only people who are going to get married can do.

I would be disappointed if someone came away from reading this series and simply did the things we have mentioned without emotion and passion. Personally, I would rather people not do anything then to do things just because “well, it sounds like it might be a decent idea” and not out of a heart that is filled with love and is ready to pour that out through action.

Our whole series comes down to this: show God and your future husband your love by how you live your life. Live in a way that would make them proud. And do this out of love


  1. 1 Corinthians 7

    32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

    Having another to serve the Lord with I believe to be a wonderful blessing and gift. It seems a beautiful thing to have someone stand by your side.
    But, like mentioned in your post, marriage may not be a part of the plan God's laid out for one's life. Honestly, for a moment I wasn't sure I was okay with this. I wanted that special someone. But this text really helped me to see differently. "Undivided devotion". Unwrapping this concept of singleness, I've become joyous to find it a GIFT. I'm still young and able. This time is special- a moment when I can focus my all on OUR (God and mine's) relationship. A time given to grow in myself through Him. Maybe someday someone will show up in the plan God has for me, but I've found it enough to know that my devotion is to an everlasting, loving relationship.

  2. Olivia, this was great! Someone will never be sorry that they remained pure, whether they end up getting married or not.


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