Wednesday, March 25, 2009

The Dream Man

The world has it’s version of a “dream guy”. From Prince Charming and Ken (the doll) to the Jonas Brothers and Brad Pitt, our culture swoons at these figures and compares all men to them. Most girls dream from the first time they watched Cinderella to find their Prince Charming and be swept off their feet as he takes them back to their castle. Or they dream of riding off into the sunset in a very nice (red) convertible with Ken. Or, if you are a true romantic, you dream of someday becoming “Mrs. Darcy”

As a Christian, what do we look for as a “dream guy”? Do we keep with the “tall, dark, and handsome” list with a little morals and values tacked on? What is a biblical way to look at this? Well I want to introduce you to the manly equivalent on a Proverbs 31 woman; the Job 29 man.

God called Job a righteous man without any fault and this is what Job says about his life, “I delivered the poor who cried for help, and the fatherless who had none to help Him. The blessing of him who was about to perish came upon me, and I caused the widow’s heart to sing for joy. I put on righteousness, and it clothed me; my justice was like a robe and a turban. I was eyes to the blind and feet to the lame. I was a father to the needy, and I searched out the cause of him whom I did not know. I broke the fangs of the unrighteous and made him drop his prey from his teeth.” Now that is what I call a “dream guy”, at least in my mind.

When thinking of this subject the other night some great men came to my mind. What if there was a man with King David's heart of worship, Daniel's courage, Paul and Peter's boldness, Isaiah's willingness, Stephen's readiness to die, John's lovingkindness, Solomon's wisdom, Noah's faith, and the Boaz's redeeming awesomeness all in one? Now THAT would be a true dream man. Of course the only one with all of the admirable qualities of these men and none of the flaws is Jesus.

In essence, the dream man is Jesus Christ. He is the perfect man who is not someone we only read about in the Bible, but we are in a beautiful romance with. He is our Prince Charming and the light of our life. Or at least He should be. Girls, we are offered to be a part of the most beautiful romance in history with the most handsome and wonderful Prince to ever walk the earth. He will fulfill all of our needs and is the only one who can make our lives complete.

Earthly romance is a wonderful thing and a blessing from God. But for us as young women we should be concerned with one love, one romance. That amazing romance we are given with Jesus Christ. He is to be the love of our life and passion of our souls. for we have a "dream guy" that loves us enough to even die for us! What beauty that holds! All we have to do now is let Him become our handsome prince.

Monday, March 16, 2009

We're Still Here!

“Oh where, oh where have those little girls gone? Oh where, oh where could they be? With their craziness and spunk so strong, oh were, oh were could they be?” I have a feeling that some of you have been singing that song when checking back here to look for new posts (if you even have done so). Well life has been busy for us, especially me.

Only a week ago I got two new little brothers ages 2 ½ and almost 1 (go here to read more about it) and that has kept my life incredibly busy. My whole family is adjusting to having little munchkins running around and all the changes that come with little kids. Between school, chores, and helping out with the boys, I don’t have much free time until they go to bed. I’m also in a play right now, so life is busy and that means that posting is slow.

I have two posts that I’ve been working on right now that should be ready within a few days (or at least that’s the goal). While you are waiting for posts, I would love for you guys to check out a few of these things:

  • Project Rescue: An awesome mission working with victims of forced prostitution in India and Nepal. Go here to read my post on Project Rescue.
  • Beauty From the Heart: A fantastic blog that is actually doing a conference this year. If you are in one of the areas that is hosting a conference then it’s something that you really should go to! Also, Hannah’s (one of the authors) brother Tyler got into a huge ATV accident awhile ago and he can really use prayers.
  • Encouraging Manhood: This article by Leslie Ludy (a personal hero of mine) is absolutely wonderful! It’s on the state of manhood in our culture and church and a call for Christ like manhood and showing women how we can help encourage it in the men in our lives. (Warning: it’s quite blunt about the sexual sins of men so use discretion before reading.)
  • Chivalry: My dear friend Trey recently wrote a two part series on his blog about chivalry that is excellent!(Go here to read it.) It’s mainly written towards guys but I found it very beneficial to know what to look for and encourage. This guy also practices what he preaches.


Hopefully that will keep you all busy for awhile. We will be back and posting soon and until then may God bless you and keep you all!

Thursday, March 5, 2009

A Heart of Humility

Where do we find the balance between confidence and egotism? In the fight for the qualities of a virtuous woman, it can be easy to slip from the simple security of righteousness to the abuse of acknowledgement of one’s own righteousness. I think—though it is unique to each age, generation, and stage of spiritual maturity—we all struggle with this.

It feels good to do what’s right; as a matter of fact, I think it verges on the best feeling we can get on this earth. I think the majority of the time, we’re quite aware of the things that we do the right way. The trouble appears when we start to take advantage of our good judgment—we build ourselves up in our own minds, and in the process destroy our relationships.

Proverbs 27:2 says, “Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.” At first, it feels really nice to be able to tell people the things that you did right; but eventually, people start to look at you differently. You’re no longer the object upon which they can cast their respect, because you’ve taken every honorable trait that you had and mauled its appeal. The strongest message in the Gospel is to love…love the Lord, and love your neighbor as yourself. So, when we’re constantly boasting about what we’ve done right, what is that saying to the receivers of our gloating? It may not feel like it, but that’s a very quick way to demean a person.

Matthew 5:20 says “For I say to you, that unless your righteousness exceeds the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.” When Christ died on the cross, He did not take away the law, He fulfilled it. In His death, we gained freedom, but with that freedom came a new responsibility—the responsibility which was presented earlier in Matthew 5 with the beatitudes. When we’re told to exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, it’s clear instruction to not only be upright, but to have an upright heart.

To fulfill Christ’s wishes, we must cast away our pride and self-righteous mindsets. He is the only one who can emanate true righteousness. Conceited virtue isn’t virtue at all. In the constant struggle to be a truly beautiful woman, we must never forget the importance of our dependence on Christ to fulfill each and every good thing that we do. In His righteousness is our confidence.